The Damaging Effects Emotional Wounds Have in Your Life + Top 4 Things You Can Do to Open Your Heart to Greater Love and Connection
“We are kept from the experience of Spirit because our inner world is cluttered with past traumas . . . As we begin to clear away this clutter, the energy of divine light and love begins to flow through our beings.”
~ Father Thomas Keating
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by something you can’t quite put your finger on?
Have you ever been consumed by a past event or felt a rising resentment that you just couldn’t let go of?
Have you ever regretted certain experiences in your life but felt powerless to move beyond them?
Some of the adverse emotions you’ve experienced in the past may still be creating problems for you in subtle, yet very damaging ways.
Circumstances that often initiate internal emotional conflict include:
Abandonment, rejection, neglect, or adoption
Loss of a loved one, giving up a child for adoption, miscarriage, or abortion
Trauma, injury, physical abuse, or sexual abuse
Mental or verbal abuse - Mental or physical illness
Relationship problems or divorce
Financial hardship or struggling to survive
Work or home stress (or long-term stressors)
Natural disaster, or witnessing/experiencing a traumatic or abusive event and feeling powerless to do anything about it
Negative talk or beliefs about yourself or others, and the need to gossip
Emotional wounds hinder our freedom, our happiness, our health, and our tendency to love.
We operate from a reality that we perceive through our emotional pain—a reality of injustices, which are emotional poison. The more we deny or repress something, the greater the build-up of emotional toxicity, which often takes the form of an explosive release of pent-up emotion—emotion that can be damaging to both yourself and others.
Emotions Significantly Influence Conditions or Effects in Our Lives
Out of our emotional reactions to life, we create our beliefs:
The world is safe or unsafe.
I am a good person or a bad person.
I am lovable or unlovable.
I am worthy or unworthy.
I am a winner or a loser.
Our emotional reactions to life govern our thought patterns, our beliefs, and our attitudes, and send out vibrations that resonate with other energetic fields, drawing those matching ones to us.
From our beliefs come our behaviors in life—whether we are easy going, generous, kind, and helpful; or unkind, confrontational, underhanded, or bitchy. Our behaviors then create results in our lives:
Whether we’ve created loving, supportive relationships or stressful, challenging ones.
Whether we create a life as one big adventure or one big struggle.
If we have a neat, clean, and organized environment or are clutter-laden pack rats.
Then, of course, the results we get—either good or bad—influence how we feel, creating this continuous cycle until we alter it.
Our emotionally driven subconscious mind has this uncanny ability of bringing people and situations into our lives that force us to face, and feel, whatever we have previously resisted, denied, or suppressed because that is what it has stored there. That emotional vibration is what drives our subconscious to attract the unresolved emotions into our life experiences over and over again. Until we change the patterns, they have an energetic charge that will continue to trouble us.
Your Emotional States and Your Happiness
Repressed, denied, or unresolved emotions cause us to feel an exaggerated emotional response because they are buried in our subconscious mind and seem controlled but, in actuality, are building with continuous unseen impulses until they eventually implode. Our perception of reality becomes skewed and reactions happen before we know it.
Anxiety, depression, fear, nervousness, resentment, uneasiness—all these feelings that we can’t seem to shake—have detrimental effects on our lives. They prevent us from achieving goals, short-circuit our relationships, limit our happiness, and diminish our ability to love. They suppress our natural and healthy sexual expressions, and they cause us to make assumptions, often hurting the ones we love.
When our emotions are blocked due to denial, repression, or trauma, we become stuck—we are unable to respond appropriately or authentically to the world around us.
Unfortunately, these emotional wounds also cause us to misinterpret behavior. They cause us to overact to innocent remarks and can trigger our everyday, minute-to-minute choices and behavior. Unresolved feelings create the challenges, the uneasiness, the pain, and the crisis situations in our lives.
Emotions are essential in reaching the greatest possible understanding of who we are and what we want, and they make themselves known primarily through internal sensations. The more attuned we grow to these internal sensations, by resolving the disruptive emotional patterns, the wiser and more consciously aware we become.
Our goal is to resolve our emotional wounds so we can open to greater love and connection with others. The good news is, you get to influence these shifts toward wholeness, and it is easier than you may think.
So, how can we transform our emotional wounds and open to greater love and connection? There are a few ways to go about this, but the most effective that I have found in my years of experience to get the ones that are held deep down within are:
Traumatic Stress Release
The Blessing of Forgiveness
Heart-Armoring Removal Process
Biofield Entrainment– for daily support
Traumatic Stress Release:
Is a time-tested guided process we have used successfully for many years now that has been specifically designed to shift and release the traumatic stress held deep within the body-mind energy system to evoke a state of peace and detachment. This process does not block your memory of the event; it simply releases the emotional stress from the body-mind energy system that the event created.
This process moves the hurtful energy away from the survival centers (where trauma gets stuck), then processes it via the more efficient higher brain functions in the neocortex for resolution. As your body’s life-force energy circulates through the blocked areas, it connects with the electrical circuits in the body containing the disorganized energy. This flow of energy allows your subconscious to shift to a state of peace regarding the entire experience. Within minutes, the chaotic traumatic stress is deactivated.
The Blessing of Forgiveness:
Is a guided process that allows you to go deeper and more fully into forgiveness for times when the conscious decision to forgive has not been working as well as you’d hoped due to resistance at the subconscious level.
Forgiveness for those times when the circumstances you endured had such an impact that it was carried into the depths of your being.
It rescues us from the things that have hurt us in the past.
It helps us reclaim the power to decide how that past event will affect our life in the present and
It permits us to move forward, so we can get on with the venture of living a joyful life.
Until you forgive, you still have an energetic connection to the past person or event.
Many individuals using this Blessing of Forgiveness Process have experienced that the emotional charge associated with the stressful event can be transformed and even completely released. This, in turn, releases the energetic patterns that would have otherwise drained you of your life-force energies and contributed to illness or dis-ease.
The Heart-Armoring Removal Process:
In 85%-90% of all individuals Heart-Armoring was created at some point in the past to protect us from situations we were unable to handle at the time – perhaps we didn’t have the social skills or knowledge of how to handle ourselves in particular situations, or others overstepped our personal boundaries. Emotional charges of frustration, anger, betrayal, confusion set in and then have a detrimental effect in future situations, building over time to form some incredible walls of protection.
The main purpose of Heart-Armoring was to keep us safe at a time when we didn’t know how to handle a situation properly or differently in a healthier way.
Heart-Armoring can leave a person feeling numb, disconnected, and somewhat isolated from others.
Most often, we feel the need to defend and shield ourselves from being hurt by misperceived signals we process through our consciousness.
Releasing Heart-Armoring opens us up to new levels of awareness, and being.
We are more connected with others.
We are open to experiences and more curious to see where the adventure in everyday life leads, rather than jump to conclusions of ‘how bad’ it will turn out to be.
We are able to give and receive love more easily and effortlessly.
Our lives and our relationships become a much richer experience.
This has become one of my all-time favorites for daily life and continuous, nurturing support. Biofield entrainment is where subtle energy technology has been energetically encoded into digital media (such as audios, images, or videos) with the express purpose of entraining your bio-energy field for health and well-being. This little-known technology is effective with filling in the gaps and strengthening the life-force energy flow of your personal energy field. There is even a comprehensive program HeartWave 2.0 that is specifically designed for developing anything having to do with the heart, body, mind, soul, and spirit!
As a matter of fact, I’ve been so impressed with Biofield Entrainment Technology that I have it running in the background of my home (especially while I’m working), almost 24 hours a day.
Our healthy emotions play a vital role in our ability to create the life of our dreams—they unite our mind with our body. And, by being in touch with our emotions, they guide and lead us to a deeper understanding and more authentic relationship with our self.
Until next time. I look forward to connecting with you again soon.
If you’d like to schedule an appointment with me for any of the above sessions, please email me at: Dhebi@theHeartAndSoulAcademy.com