Loveability and the Consciousness of Love
February is a month we think about love – love and romantic relationships. We know we have something special when we are in a healthy, loving, supportive relationship, but not everyone is in a romantic relationship.
Maybe we’re looking for one
Maybe we’re in a relationship, but it’s not ideal and we’re not in a mood to celebrate
Maybe we’ve had the love-of-our-life and with their passing we’re just not interested in looking for another, because no one can take their place
Maybe we’re disillusioned with love and at a still point where we’re not looking for a relationship
That’s ok – our focus is on love itself, which all of us can improve upon whether we are in a healthy, loving, supportive relationship or not. Ultimately we know that everything is about relationship, whether it is romantic or otherwise. …so we need to start with:
Lovability and our own self-love
The consciousness of love
The spiritual energy of love
The vibration of love
How to Regain and “Be the frequency of love”
The importance of nurturing love within our-self.
Why is this important you might ask?
Because we’ve all experienced heartache at one time or another in our lives. We’ve suffered mistreatment, misunderstanding, and injustices from others. We’ve been unappreciated, under-valued, and wrongfully blamed. And, any of these circumstances are magnified when we don’t have a deep love and appreciation for ourselves.
Our greatest epidemic in life is not loving ourselves enough, not believing we deserve to love ourselves, and not knowing how to love ourselves.
We may think we’ve done unlovable things in our past, but we need to separate behavior from WHO we are. Our true nature is LOVE – only we’ve lost touch with that aspect, and therefore it creates our sense of separation in the world.
To change all this, we need to start within our-self, because it is our heart-coherency that communicates with the living essence of the field – the Source Field that is all around us. It’s what creates synchronicity and flow in life, and without it we experience disconnect, challenges, and frustration.
“Loveability,” is a word Robert Holden coined and it means the ability to love and be loved.
As Babies we come into this world embodying the basic truth that we are all lovable.
When we grow up and take on the conditioning of our society, we learn limiting stories about love and about ourselves. Stories of how elusive love is, or how difficult it is to find or keep, or how unworthy of unconditional love we are.
As we grow up we literally forget that we are perfect and completely lovable the way we are! We unlearn that we are lovable without conditions, without comparisons, without judgments, without attachments, without needing to “do” anything to be loved. We desperately strive to be “good enough” and hope somebody will love us if we just try hard enough to be “right” and look long enough to find “the One” who can accept us the way we are.
Many of us are on a quest to find love and find the perfect romantic partner. However, when we are looking for love, it means that is what we are lacking in our life experience, and this “lack-of-love” is exactly what blocks us from finding it. Instead, we have to become what we are looking for.
What does that mean, “to become what we are looking for?” It means:
To be a more loving person
To start loving others more
To literally step into the energy of love and “be love”
When you embody love you can’t help but attract more love into your life.
Love is an inner journey. Robert Holden, in his book “Loveability” states that, “The goal of this journey is not to find love; it is to know love.” When we feel truly lovable, we are able to love others unconditionally and are able to also let ourselves be loved by others. It determines if we trust love and let love in with an open heart.
Science has revealed that love is vital to our existence.
Love is a basic survival code for us as humans. Our brain is wired to read and respond to others. Feeling safe and loved by others makes us stronger. We all need the emotional and spiritual nourishment of human relationships, not just the romantic ones. Human comfort is our natural remedy for fear, stress, and doubt. Rejection, abandonment and disconnection are cues for danger that plunge us into anxiety and cause us not just emotional harm, but also physical pain.
The energy of love has wonderful physical side effects. As Bruce Lipton says in his book The Honeymoon Effect, “When your mind perceives the experience of love, it causes the brain to secrete neurochemicals, such as dopamine, oxytocin and growth hormone into the blood …you are generally healthier and more alive when you are in love.”
Love is not something we “fall into” when we are fortunate, or “get” when we happen to be cute and lovable. Love is a state of being to embrace; it’s a level of consciousness as well. It doesn’t just happen to us. We are co-creating it based on our core beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we have learned that we are lovable and worthy of experiencing love and joy, it’s easier to vibrate at the level of love. Love is an experience, though it’s an action first and foremost.
Love is also a discipline; it requires us to personify love and to practice being loving with yourself and others. In fact, it’s an essential aspect in learning to unconditionally love ourselves.
Lack of Self-Love Leads to Lack of Peace
To change this cycle we need clarity. When we have awareness we have the opportunity to heal our emotional wounds, our disharmonious beliefs, and stop the suffering.
Conscious Clarity - Increased Awareness
There is no way to avoid mistreatment from others altogether, but there is a way for you to not allow the mistreatments to destroy you or your peace.
To do this you want to get to a vantage point of where the circumstances look and feel different. …so you want to ask yourself some questions:
What needs to change?
How could it be better?
What would I rather have instead?
If I can’t change another person, only myself, what can I do differently?
Then write those answers down.
Many of us have been taught to give to others, to love others, and under no circumstances be so vain as to love ourselves. When discovering what the subconscious mind holds to be true, 90% of people fail the energetic muscle test “I love myself.” It’s just not a belief most of us have programmed in our subconscious mind.
Instead, we hold back on truly loving ourselves until a certain condition is met.
“I’ll love myself and my body when I have lost weight”
“I’ll love myself when I have reached my goals”
“I’ll love myself when somebody else truly loves me”
That conditioning completely misunderstands the true nature of love.
We exist as love. Reconnecting with our true essence simply means reopening our heart to love. It means the end of loneliness and separation. Instead, it fosters unity with others people, with nature, with the source of life, with all there is. Love is your original energy - your true essence.
How do you open your heart? How do you start loving yourself and others more?
You create love by creating an atmosphere of love in your life.
Seeing the beauty in yourself is as necessary as seeing the beauty in others.
Allow yourself to see more of the joy and beauty of life that is surrounding you daily.
Allow yourself to be at peace with what is, instead of criticizing and focusing on the lack within yourself and others.
You create this love by speaking kindly to the people you meet.
You consciously look for the good and the positive in everyone. You tell people why you appreciate them.
You listen from your heart to the words that others speak.
You give yourself permission to be truly present with them.
You build bridges to connect with others by being loving.
By being considerate in your thoughts, your words, and your actions, you are attracting more love into your life.
We are conditioned to believe that happiness and love comes only after we have found our ideal lover. This attitude limits our personal growth. Instead, we can decide to be truly happy right now, today. And because your sincere joy makes you more attractive, others find you lovable and want to be around you. Soon you begin to feel the joy, the lightness, and the laughter that comes with love. You realize that love is more than a lover adoring you - love is an open heart for everybody, including yourself. That kind of love is healing.
There are two basic human emotions. One is fear, the other is love. One cancels out the other. Fear impacts our ability to love. Love, on the other hand, heals all fear and chaos.
“Love is a healer because it undoes the basic problem of separation and also the basic fear of not being loveable. It restores our awareness of our Unconditional Self and our true nature. Love is, I believe, the solution to every problem.” ~Robert Holden, Loveability
How do we regain our sense of Love, Peace, and Joy?
Your goal is to think and feel differently, to vibrate differently, and to feel love in your heart.
Find what needs to be healed within you and do your inner-personal work. When you do your inner work you release the heavy energy that is taking up space within your energy field – that heavy energy taking up space depletes you from being able to easily reach higher levels of consciousness. It robs you at the subconscious level of your intelligence. And, when you do your inner work you free up energy, which now becomes accessible to the conscious mind and even raises your IQ.
When we do our inner-work we raise our vibration. For, every time we heal our emotional hurts, mental suffering, and illusion of separation, we let go of the weight that drags us down.
Love Is Our True Nature
Love comes from inside of us and is always there, for within your heart is all the love you will ever need.
When we raise our vibration to a higher level not only does the chemistry of our body change…
It boosts our immune system, we feel better, and it boosts our health.
Our lives come into greater synchronicity and flow because we are uniting our energy into the web of entangled energies in a more fluid and harmonious way.
We also raise our consciousness, which supports our evolution.
Increases our spirituality – we are able to have a greater connection and communication with our guides, ascended masters, and Beings of Light.
[NOTE: If you’ve ever had the experience of contact with your guides, ascended masters or Beings of Light and you’ve wondered, “Where did they go?” I can tell you: They didn’t go anywhere – they’re still there! We are the ones whose frequency drops and leaves their sphere of influence to where we are no longer in contact with them. They are always there - yet it is difficult for them to drop their frequency levels enough to make contact with us. When we raise our energy up, the connection is once again made. It is as simple and as difficult as that. But, it is up to us.]
The true vibrational frequency of love is one that:
You feel within yourself
You feel toward your loved ones
You can feel towards everything as a whole
It’s personal to you. And at the same time it’s universal. It’s a place where you are able to speak from your heart and from a place of love when interacting with others.
This blog post contains much of the information Angelika Baum and myself presented in our webinar “Loveability and the Consciousness of Love” that originally aired on Feb. 8th, 2017. I’ve re-posted the original webinar below if you’d like to watch it in full.
I look forward to connecting with you again soon. Until next time,
Watch the “Loveability and the Consciousness of Love Webinar” presented by Dhebi DeWitz and Angelika Baum that originally aired on February 8th, 2017.
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